The empty loneliness of the widow in a home that feels suddenly vacant and empty, whose table for two is set for one. Those who have lost a parent, the homeless teen, and the divorced person who was married for many years…they all understand the anguish of loneliness at the deepest levels. God is not the author of loneliness. He does not want us to be isolated and lonely. He gave us life that is meant to be full and rich.
“For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” (Psalm 139: 14-16)
Jesus understands our loneliness. “He came unto His own, and His own received Him not.” (John 1:11) Jesus lived a life of loneliness. “He is despised and rejected of men; a Man of sorrows …” (Isaiah 53:3). His disciples forsook Him the night He died. He took the sin of the world upon Himself and even God His Father could not look upon Him…Jesus died alone. Do not be afraid of loneliness. Gather your strength. Loneliness and solitude are not the same. In solitude, you are by yourself, but not alone. For there is One who is always with you. If you are a Christian, the Holy Spirit indwells you.
Experiencing the presence of the Holy Spirit is something you develop over time. He does not shout at you. He does not navigate when you are driving. He does not give you a list of instructions every morning. Nevertheless, He is there. He cherishes you. If you had been the only soul on Earth, Jesus Christ would have died for you alone. Through Him, you have value and worth. He knows the very hairs of your head. He made you, He wants you, He knows you, He loves you, and He understands. He is constantly with you.
So remember, while you may be lonely, you are never alone. He promised never to leave you. “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” (Hebrews 13:5).